As you go through the day looking for things to add to your gratitude list, also notice the people and circumstances that typically rob you of joy. Don't hyper focus on them, but when you know they're coming, prepare yourself mentally.
Be aware of the degree to which you allow the negativity in or take it on as your own, carrying it around like a toxic lead weight. It does not have to become yours. Mentally keep a difficult person or circumstance at arms length, separate from you. Remind yourself that this is one negative person or circumstance in a steady stream of good things for which you are grateful. That one shift in perception helps us to keep things in perspective and allows us to deal with the life sludge better than we would otherwise.
As soon as the negative interaction is over, find something positive to focus on. Maybe it’s nothing more than being done with that interaction. Maybe it’s realizing that you're handled it differently this time and that feels good. Maybe it’s that the sun is shining or you're breathing. Just find something and be grateful for it.
By the way, the longer you practice gratitude, the easier it is to deal with negative people and circumstances. (Note that I didn’t say it’s easy. But it is definitely easier.)
Nine more days days to go until we've made this a habit, Underdogs. Pass this on to someone who could use it today. You never know how much he or she might need it.
The Big Joy of Little Things - Day 12 and I am thankful for…..
47. Help from the internet in figuring out how to stop my computer from overheating and running like a slug.
48. The pride that welled up in my son who has never been a big fan of school, but who kicked butt on his college entrance exams.
49. Feeling the Holy Spirit guide me and knowing there is no greater Force for good.
50. The relaxed vibe of our kids being on summer vacation.
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Love, peace and gratitude,